Having a child then having the child marry are the
first two steps to mellow. On becoming a grandparent, although one is
aware of the cycle of life after the first two steps the full dawning
comes when one actually becomes a grandparent.
At that point
psychologically one becomes fully aware with a depth that is
unobtainable prior (of course when young there is barely any recognition
except in moments of health problems but that is diminished as one is focused
on one's own situation).
A feeling of
having done one's job genetically and parenting comes in and it is very
very satisfying. One becomes an observer rather than a full participant in life
and the trials, tribulations and foibles of one's offspring is viewed
avuncularly.
In my experience if one can get through life with a
bit of dignity intact and has a loving family then that's the best one can
do. When young of course there is the struggle and challenge of suitable
employment, finding a partner and striving to achieve as whatever societies current
mores and striving dictate.
The reality is that achieving a degree of financial
comfort and if possible job satisfaction while maintaining key
relationships is all that matters (with faith as an adjunct).
If Bill Gates and Bezos with all their billions and
worldly success can't maintain their relationships that's all you need to
know about the pursuit of wealth and fame-it's a chimera.
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